Life moves fast and before you know it a year has gone by. On this day a year ago I had no idea what large changes would be unfolding in my life in the next 12 months. I had no idea that my husband was in the midst of a 3 year affair and I had no idea that my world was about to come crashing down.
Today we signed our MSA and so another holiday takes it’s mark for our story together…May the 4th be with you! The settlement process has been the most stressful part so far…it takes one piece of paper to get married and a whole lot more to get divorced and editing the MSA has been daunting, frustrating and expensive. I’m relieved we avoided trial but the settlement is not all rainbows and butterflies, we both conceded on different things and we will both still struggle in this new partnership as we form the new normal of what it will be like to co-parent and try to be friends again.
A note on children: I love mine of course, but should my future self ever decide having more is a good idea I implore you to consider how much more complicated a broken heart is when they are involved. Our lives are committed to them no matter what has gone down between us and my hope is that we help them on the path to a more enlightened and opportunity ridden life than we have had. That because of the pain we have endured they will have a clearer vision for their own future and relationships and perhaps my biggest piece of advice when they are ready for marriage will be to get a pre-nuptial agreement; written in love and understanding opposed to the ego driven, broken hearted perspective of the MSA lengthy process we’ve just survived.
My Body Prints hat has been tucked in a closet for a while now and I’ve missed it. I look forward to creating space and energy for it again at my own pace and allowing myself time to plant new seeds of inspiration.
I’ve always found gardening to be a direct metaphor for my life status and I’ve had an enormous amount of weeds removed from the Sugar Shack’s property yesterday and scheduled maintenance, so it’s a start. For now it looks like a big sandbox, but the potential is limitless and so is my life.
I’ve found my Family and friends to be more important in my life than ever before providing me with support, love and laughter. I know not everyone can say they love their job, but I truly do and I love the people I work with. Picasso & Wine has become a home away from home for me and sharing the creative high with people has been the best therapy I could ask for. Another therapeutic outlet has been with the Hootchy Kootchy Girls and the sisterhood I’ve found with some amazing women. I’ve got so much to be thankful for and if you are reading this, then yes I’m thankful for you too.